Keeping Agreements Is The Key For Relationships
April 23, 2015
According to the dictionary; Envy is a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, positions and superior quality.
Envy is ultimately directed against God's generosity and sovereignty.
This is the Parable of the workers in a vineyard and the master who hires workers in different hours but pays the same amount at the end of the day.
The master pays the last first and the first one last and the same wages.
This produces envy and judgment of the master for his generosity.
It is like God given to he's faithful servants Moses and Abraham the same thing that he gave to the dying thief crucified next to Jesus on Calvary.
To those who question the righteousness of the master he asks the question:
Don't I have the right to do what i want with my own money?
Or are you envious because of my generosity?
He seemed to be saying come and let us reason together.
Do you remember I was upfront from the beginning?
Didn't we agree in one denarius for a day’s wages?
Why are you ignoring our agreement now?
From the account of the parable of the workers in the vineyard we can clearly conclude that this is the story of a conflict in a relationship that went sour.
There are two kinds of relationships. The first one is based on birth or blood and the second is based on agreements, covenants, contracts and behavior.
The first one is indestructible because of blood. While the second is breakable because of behavior. A son is related to his father by birth and forever.
In the same way a father is related to his son forever.
The nature of the first relationships is like the vertical beam of the cross firmly planted in the rocky soil. But the second relationship is based on agreements.
For this to survive it must hang in the vertical beam of the cross.
The word given is the conditions of agreements as stated at the beginning.
By nature the covenantal relationships hang in midair like the horizontal beam of the cross. They depend in the word given on the basis of the belief of a higher vertical authority or parameters or values on a given society.
This mutual belief generates the principle of "The sanctity of the contract".
Since this agreements are based on behavior and performance; other uninvited variables come into the picture such as expectations, evaluations, rationalizations and comparison of ones work against others.
When two associates become litigant, the one who sues the other conveniently forgets the agreements made before no other but each other as witnesses.
When to the conflict of disagreement one adds the virus of entitlement and self-seeking expectations of what one truly deserves, the relationship is in a collision course.
To legalize the discussion the offended party need to bring some new elements into the negotiating table even though they were not present at the time of the initial agreement, such as what is fair and what is not fare.?
At the time of signing the agreement the promises were more than fair and mutually accepted.
What has change apart of greed and envy? The unhappy plaintiff has betrayed his word. He has changed and is walking away from the agreement in which he took active part from the beginning.
The horizontal beam of the cross is coming apart with no one to hold it up.
Horizontal beam by itself is like three cut down to remain where it falls.
So is the worker who believes in his "good works", his performance, his comparison and evaluation of his own works with others of "lesser value".
The advise of proverbs 3:5 came alive to this worker a little too late. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding"
A disgruntled worker becomes a faultfinder who does not notice the virtues of generosity because he is too involved with his own rights.
The yeast of self-pity is now fermenting the dough.
The fact of working hard and long under the scorching sun is brewing ideas in the worker. The others were most of the day just standing in the market place doing nothing. To be paid first and the same salary was not acceptable.
"That is not fair". Of course that's not fair. Salvation itself it's not fair.
“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God” “not by works, so that no one can boast”
God keeps his agreement and remains the Just well as the justifier. God has the right to do whatever he wants with his own money or properties.
The self-righteous attitudes of the hard workers make them merciless. They are the ones that make no room for deathbed conversion. “Because it is not fair”
They even dare to dictate the master how to spend his money and grace.
Most of true conversions and reconciliations happen in the deathbed where a man no longer have any option but to think and to do right.
A man in his deathbed has no leverage left in his sinful mind or the heart.
No cards under the sleeves to keep himself in the game.
No useful fools around him to do anything in exchange of an offer to his demands. No power of money, no influence can add a single hour to his day.
When envy rules, you see yourself as big dog with the tiny bone in your mouth.
When envy rules, you see others as small dogs with big bones in their mouth.
When envy rules, you see your plate of food as a slice of pizza too small for you.
When envy rules, you see the plate of others as an extra- large pizza.
When envy rules, you see your lifetime savings as a piggybank on your hands. When envy rules, you see the savings of others as big as hippopotamus.
Beware with envy it will lead you to murmuring and murmuring to gossip and gossip separates friends with whom you are meant to be together.
By envy a beautiful angel in heaven became the most awful demon. He was not content with his honors. Neither was he thankful and faithful to God.
The lack of thankfulness leads to murmur against God.
This angel gossiped to his peers and was cast away from heaven down to hell.
This angel did not think as great gift the communion with God.
Mother Eve was not content with all she had and envied the forbidden fruit and was led into temptation by talking behind God with the enemy and fell in sin.
To the same trap we the sons and daughters of Eve are prompt to fall.
Keep your agreements. Be thankful, humble and content for that is great gain.
When convicted of such a great sin, remember the love and generosities of God that is a prayer of repentance away.
He is not angry. He loves you and will keep his everlasting Covenants that is not based oh our behavior but on the blood of Jesus that makes us sons and daughters of God. And once a child of God a child of God forever.
To the glory of his name alone. Come lest us reason together says the Lord! We are of God by Covenant and Birth in Jesus.
First Thought. April 22, 2015 GA.
Matthew 20 verses 1 to 16